In today’s episode, we have an in-depth conversation with former CrossFit co-owner, Mary Frances. We dive deep into her personal and professional journey of helping people reach their health and fitness goals while also coaching them to find their strength in all other areas of life. With all her training and certification in place, Mary has re-entered the entrepreneurial world, now actively working towards starting her own gym. She reflects on her time at CrossFit, sharing about the physical burnout trainers often suffer and why she decided to make the change despite loving her job. We talk about her personal development, how it changed her into a girl’s girl, the need to grow in self-awareness and how she deals with negative thoughts she might have about another woman. Mary shares her most embarrassing moments, her blunders as a business owner, why you need to practice having difficult conversations and how she experiences the pressure of always having to be in top physical form. We women tend to keep flogging ourselves over past failures, and as such, we constantly revisit those events and the emotions that came along with it. Join us to also hear why you should let go once and for all!
Key Points From This Episode:
- How you can’t show up as yourself when you’re worried about what others think.
- The burnout that comes from being a fitness coach who does multiple classes each day.
- Mary’s goal of establishing a gym that looks after the trainers and their needs too.
- Learning that, while you can love something, it might not be right for you.
- How personal development helped Mary to shift from being a guy’s girl to a girl’s girl.
- Always checking yourself for jealousy when it comes to your thought about other women.
- The importance of self-awareness and taking a personal inventory.
- An embarrassing moment in her first year of CrossFit and her faux pas as a business owner.
- Learning that you need a witness present for sensitive one-on-one conversations.
- Sticking with your integrity and intuition in times of difficulty.
- How this generation is breaking out of prescribed societal roles and expectations.
- Why Mary doesn’t feel the pressure to be in perfect shape all the time.
- The unrealistic expectations that social media creates around fitness and beauty.
- What it means to fail forward and measuring success by how in-tune you are with yourself.
- Continuously triggering stress responses by obsessing over your failures.
- The biggest challenges of co-ownership and the importance of knowing your partners.
- Why everyone – especially business owners – needs to practice having hard conversations.
- Realizing that helping others and seeing them succeed won’t take anything away from you.
“Once I put out into the universe that I wanted to be a better person, that I wanted to level up, I started attracting the people who also wanted to do that.” — Mary Frances [0:09:42]
“You’re projecting whatever your insecurities are unto that person and then you’re hateful of that person….Ninety percent of the time it’s more something to do with you than it is with her. ” — Mary Frances [0:12:38]
“The more hard conversations you have, the better you will be at having hard conversations and that is a skill that everyone should have.” — Mary Frances [0:42:45]