This week it just didn’t feel right to continue with the plan for a solo episode on body image. It didn’t feel right not to address the glaring issue going on in the US right now. While my voice matters, I wanted to take the opportunity to amplify the voices of women of color—particularly black women—in this time of heartache, anger, and frustration based on the centuries of oppression that people of color have faced and are still dealing with every day in 2020. I’ve decided to do a roundup of the interviews I have had with specifically black women on this podcast, and I am committed to becoming even more diverse and inclusive in the guests that I get on the show. Today you will hear segments of interviews with four amazing black women, including Tianna Bartoletta, three-time Olympic gold medalist; Nicole Walters, corporate world crusher turned entrepreneur; Davita Parks, athlete and business mentor; and Kelsey Campbell, Olympic wrestler and singer. We talk about everything from self-worth, body-image, and boundaries to being okay with dropping the ball, personal growth, and fighting for your second wind. This is an episode chock-full of wisdom from powerful women who are fighting the good fight and making a positive impact in the world.
Key Points from This Episode:
- Understanding that our fight for racial equality should be a life-long commitment.
- Hear how Tianna decided on pursuing track events despite her other sporting talents.
- Dealing with anxiety and depression when everyone else perceives your life as perfect.
- The value of not living a double life and being honest about what you’re going through.
- How practicing yoga changed Tianna’s relationship with herself and her body.
- Why no one but you can give you a sense of worthiness and of being enough.
- Nicole’s super refreshing advice about doing it all and being fully where you are.
- Choosing to share her real self on social media instead of a perfectly polished version.
- Find out which charity Nicole is passionate about and her practice of micro giving.
- Making an effort to be nice and give back in the busyness of your everyday life.
- Why Nicole does not believe in doing work for free of giving discounts to friends.
- Learn how Davita’s honest approach to her audience opens more doors for business.
- Retraining herself and others to respect the boundaries of work hours and off days.
- Advice for being more present within the moment—regardless of what it is.
- Davita’s regrouping period after a partnership and romantic relationship went awry.
- Starting over again and why she doesn’t regret the difficult journey she’s been on.
- Kelsey’s take on why women should trust themselves more and not become complacent.
- The importance for coaches to communicate with their clients in the way they best receive.
- Hear about how Kelsey experienced the Olympics and the difficult period afterward.
- The challenge of being open about her depression when no one was talking about it.
- Writing a song about coming out of depression and believing in each new moment.
“I want women, all women, black women, women of color, to look at my brand, to look at this podcast, to look at me as a person and say, ‘I belong here.’ Because you do.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:02:55]
“There is no Band-Aid big enough for this bullet wound. We have to continue to do the work. I personally am committed to doing that in all aspects of my life and committing to being better.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:09:31]
“I’m done with the double life thing—that’s one the decisions I made. If that’s not how I feel, I’d rather post nothing than to post some bullshit….It is so freeing, scary, but freeing to be able to say, ‘No, I am not doing okay right now.’” — @tibartoletta [0:17:41]
“That feeling that you are enough comes from inside. There is absolutely nothing on the planet, not even the ideal man, can make you feel like you are enough if you don’t believe you are enough.” — @tibartoletta [0:24:40]
“The reality is, what I do is, I grant myself grace. I say, ‘Hey, one ball is always going to be on the floor; you can’t juggle everything.’” — @NicoleWalters [0:30:00]
“Being yourself is a lot easier than having to modify and be someone else.” — @NicoleWalters [0:35:05]
“I would not trade—even the worst moments—I wouldn’t trade them because I learned so much not about business but about myself and about my tenacity and how bad I really wanted it.” — Davita Parks [0:59:38]
“If you mess up, just keep going. Just pretend that it didn’t happen and keep going because nine times out of ten you are the only one who is going to notice it.” — Davita Parks [1:02:44]
“Especially as women, I really think we need to trust ourselves a little bit more….We have instincts, we have an intuition for a reason.” — @worldchanger55 [1:06:56]
“Anything is possible; I believe in now.” — @worldchanger55 [1:23:11]
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