This week’s episode is slightly different, because Chrystal is talking about healthy relationships. Usually, the show focuses on health, fitness, and internal wellness; however, healthy relationships are an important and relatable topic for all of us because we’ve all dated, and many of us have been married, or want to get married. In this episode, Chrystal shares some of her past experiences of unhealthy relationships, and she talks about developing a healthy and honest relationship with her husband. She works through the definition of a healthy relationship, including being your best selves, maintaining separate hobbies, and growing together. She also points out some red flags look out for, including name-calling, controlling behavior, arguing to win, gaslighting, and emotional abuse. Most of all, transparency, loving yourself, ignoring societal norms, and giving yourself time to figure your partner out are crucial, because there is nothing better than a mutually fulfilling, respectful, loving relationship! She also shares a bit about her new nutritional coaching program, Busy Body, so don’t miss out!
Key Points from This Episode:
- Chrystal shares her past experiences with unhealthy relationships and blogging about it.
- Meeting her husband and developing a healthy and honest relationship with him.
- Finding reference points within a current relationship and how it can help to understand yourself and your relationship a bit better.
- The definition of a heathy relationship? When both people involved have their needs met without causing the other person pain or suffering.
- The best relationships start with each person being the best version of themselves.
- The importance of maintaining your separate friends and hobbies and all of the things that bring you joy and not allowing all parts of your life to merge with your partner’s.
- Personal growth, ambition, and success, and the importance of growing together.
- Insecurity or jealousy and the role it plays in relationships – honesty is key!
- Unhealthy things or red flags to look out for in a relationship: Name-calling, controlling behavior, arguing to win, gaslighting, and emotional abuse.
- Love in a healthy relationship is not conditional. You should not have to earn it.
- Societal norms about marriage and children – people outside of your relationship are going to have opinions, but you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do!
- Giving yourself time to figure each other out – six months to a year or two years.
- There is nothing better than being in a mutually fulfilling, respectful, loving relationship.
- We teach people how to treat us. You have to love yourself before someone can love you!
“What exactly is a healthy relationship? What is the definition of a healthy relationship?… I would say it is when both people involved in the relationship are getting their needs met.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:10:08]
“Our time apart, spent doing the things that we enjoy, separate from the other person… make us better for ourselves, and so we are better for each other.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:17:12]
“There is a line between a healthy, constructive, necessary argument… [and] emotional or verbal abuse is leaving one person to feel as though they don’t measure up and that they are not equal in the relationship.” — @Xtal_Rose[0:34:10]
“I truly believe there is nothing like being in a mutually fulfilling, respectful, loving relationship. It is the best gift that I have in my life.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:42:52]
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