As we embark on our journeys to greater health and fitness, it can be hard when people close to us say or do things that feel unsupportive. They may not mean to harm us, but the fact is that there are lots of things that people near us can do that can feel frustrating, distracting, or hurtful. In today’s episode, Chrystal weighs in on her experiences with this problem and also gives some advice on how to cope with it. She takes listeners through her journey of once being the ‘unsupportive partner,’ and what finally made her decide to change. We explore the different kinds of people in our lives whose behavior can be triggering, from co-workers to family, friends, and even our significant others. Chrystal gets into the different ways these people can undermine us, intentionally or not, and what to do to make their jokes, unhealthy habits, or unsolicited feedback easier to bear. In the end, we are the ones who are in control of our own journeys, and the progress we have made means we are strong enough to do what it takes! Any assistance we can get along the way to make us even stronger is a good thing though, so make sure you tune in and allow Chrystal to lend a helping hand!
Key Points from This Episode:
- The launch of Chrystal’s new nutrition program was and why it’s a ‘beta’ class.
- The help that a community who supports your fitness journey can give you.
- How challenging it can be when somebody close to you is not supportive of your process.
- The idea that you can’t change how someone treats you but can change your response.
- Insight into Chrystal’s own journey of being the ‘unsupportive partner.’
- Different ways a partner can be unsupportive: Bad eating, exercise habits, and more.
- What to do if somebody close to you is unsupportive of your fitness journey.
- Tips for coping with a partner: Talk about it, change your attitude, and don’t blame their habits.
- The value of cooking separately and how to structure this at mealtimes.
- What lit Chrystal’s spark to start her own health journey after she was resistant at first.
- Tips for gym time: Don’t expect your partner to join you on your health journey.
- Asking yourself if your relationship is healthy if your significant other belittles you.
- Dealing with unsupportive family members by talking to them and adjusting your mindset.
- The idea that friends can be unsupportive too and how to deal with this jealousy.
- Unsupportive coworkers, how their behavior can be triggering, and what to do.
- Compartmentalization, commitment, and determination: habits for coping.
- The idea that unsupportive people end up asking for your help once they see your growth.
- Getting clear on the idea that only you can accomplish your goals – support is just a bonus.
“That’s the most important part, is just feeling good in your body, not necessarily looking a certain way, but getting there mentally and emotionally before you get there physically.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:04:20]
“You can’t change the people around you but you can change how you deal with them.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:05:12]
“When people see you starting to better yourself, usually they are going to be critical, upset, frustrating, and annoying, and then eventually, when they see the results, they see how great you’re doing, and they see how happy you are, they’re like, ‘Wait, what have you been doing?’” — @Xtal_Rose [0:15:23]
“When you can make shit happen without support, you’ve already proven to yourself you can do it. So when you do have support, it’s simply a bonus.” — @Xtal_Rose [0:16:29]
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