In this episode of the Self Love Breakfast Club, Chrystal talks to one of her sister coaches, Emily Bott, in the Hunger for Happiness certification program. Emily is an emotional wellness coach who is on a mission to end the battle with food and our bodies, and having had her own struggles with binge eating disorder, she is dedicating her life to reducing the shame around food struggles and all things body-image. She talks to Chrystal about how a fitness journey turned into an obsession with food and restrictive dieting, and how she hid her struggles for many years before opening up and starting on the road to healing. The things that hold us back from being vulnerable and seeking help is the immense shame and embarrassment of not having everything together – something perfectionists in particular battle with. Emily gives some guidelines for how we should think about and approach food, and gets into how her eating habits and body-image have changed since she started the journey towards healing.
Key Points From This Episode:
- Emily talks about her goal for 2021 to worry less, go with the flow, and embrace the seasons.
- What the Hungry for Happiness program taught her about loving herself and leaning into fear.
- How a fitness journey turned into a cycle of restrictive dieting and binge eating.
- Emily shares how shame and perfectionism prevented her from speaking about her struggles.
- The effect that shame can have on our relationships and all other aspects of our lives.
- Understanding that your struggles have nothing to do with your value or worth as a person.
- The episode that led up to her opening up about her eating disorder.
- Denial and making ourselves feel better by focusing on those who struggle even more.
- Thoughts about the time and mental energy you spend thinking about food and related things.
- Emily shares how long it took for the binging to subside and why it is always a work in progress.
- Understanding that we go through slower and faster seasons and being okay with that.
- Hear what Emily’s approach to food is nowadays and why intuitive eating can be a challenge early on.
- One size does not fit all: know that what works for one person might not work for you.
“It is this thing of like, whenever you are embarrassed or ashamed about something, it really snowballs into so many other aspects of your life.” — Emily Bott [0:11:26]
“If your eating habits are affecting your life on any level, you have a problem. And it’s okay to admit it.” — @Xtal_Rose[0:15:44]
“If your mental real estate is not consumed with your badassery then you deserve to get the help and really figure out where you want to go.” — Emily Bott [0:17:10]
“Understand that there are seasons in our lives and sometimes we’re in a really fast season where we feel really good and we make a lot of progress. And then there are also slower winter seasons.” — Emily Bott [0:20:45]
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