The success, flaws, and gifts of other women can trigger uncomfortable feelings in many of us, like jealousy, resentment, or even pity. In today’s episode, Chrystal dives deep into a solo session on our relationships with women: what shapes them, how to navigate them, and how we can change them. Chrystal shares how her early experiences of not having her needs met and competing with her sister for love, influenced her to distance herself from female friendships and instead surround herself with male friends. She delves into her early experiences in the corporate working space and how a scarcity mindset drove women to be competitive instead of treating one another as friends and allies. Later Chrystal discusses how society is set up to create divisions among women, especially considering how much stronger women are as a group with tight bonds. She reflects on how her experience of meeting with a group of self-aware women for the first time, after having only interacted in a virtual space, changed her perception of what is possible for female relationships. Join us for a heartfelt meditation on the difficulties and abundant potential amongst women, and realize that we are all reflected in one another!
Key Points From This Episode:
- Join Chrystal for a solo session on overcoming negative emotions towards women.
- Chrystal shares her own experiences of past negativity and jealousy with women.
- How boarding school affected Chrystal’s perception of other girls and young women.
- How we hold men accountable versus how we hold women accountable in an affair.
- The scarcity of female role models in the workplace that Chrystal had as she was coming up.
- Why women might operate in a competitive way amongst one another in the workplace.
- Insincere instances of offering support for women.
- Why society is set up to create divisions among women.
- How qualities in other women can trigger our insecurities.
- Treating other women’s success as inspirational and aspirational and a healthy mirror for what we could be.
- How to have compassion for people who are mean or trigger you.
- How Chrystal’s experience with a group of self-aware women made her realize what is possible when it comes to female acceptance.
- Chrystal’s experience of feeling unsafe and uncomfortable with abundant female support and how it’s changed her.
“In our society and our culture we blame the woman so much, and we may even blame the man, but there’s this attachment where now that he’s strayed, I feel unworthy and I need to regain my worthiness.” — Chrystal Rose [0:06:33]
“As more women began to pop up in these corporate spaces or these not-so-corporate spaces, there was this competition, this feeling of there’s only two, or a couple of us so we’re against each other, as opposed to us teaming up.” — Chrystal Rose [0:07:43]
“Women just weren’t as prominent as men were. Men helped me, I didn’t have the choice of women helping me advance in my career, because there just weren’t any. And a lot of women in the workplace were out for themselves, including me.” — Chrystal Rose [0:08:04]
“I really do believe that society is built in a way that wants us to be this way, because when women bond we are so much stronger and powerful together.” — Chrystal Rose [0:10:25]
“So here we have this woman, and instead of being jealous of her, instead of telling ourselves that maybe it’s not real, what if we looked at this as what’s possible for me? This woman is a mirror of what I could achieve.” — Chrystal Rose [0:14:02]
“That woman who is mean is hurting on levels we do not understand. Or maybe we do. People don’t treat each other badly because they’re happy.” — Chrystal Rose [0:16:22]
“When we stop putting women on pedestals and start looking at them as the radiant women that they are, with their flaws and their gifts, and we see that they’re all okay. Because that leaves room for acceptance of ourselves.” — Chrystal Rose [0:27:12]
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