Have you ever been publicly criticized for how you dress or what your opinions are? Have you ever openly criticized others for the same things?
Deb McCollum returns for a girlfriend chat about people who tear others down on this week’s episode of The Self Love Breakfast Club. It may seem harmless to make fun of a celebrity on a blog, but our words have an impact. Not only does this behavior hurt others, but it also doesn’t address the reason why we feel malice towards them. Whether someone triggers you because of unresolved insecurities or jealousy, it’s important to work on yourself and trust that all people are capable of change.
Tune into Deb and Chrystal’s conversation on the subjectivity of fashion, accepting life’s triggers, and the divisiveness of our current social climate. Learn how they became more supportive people, who try to make others feel good about themselves to create a kinder, more accepting world.
- “There’s so many things in life that are subjective right? Beauty being one of them, fashion, clothing. We all forget that we’re not going to be the same. This is what frustrates me, especially, if it’s women criticizing women specifically. We are all different, do you want someone to be exactly the same as you?” (6:01-6:22 | Deb)
- “If someone activates something in you or triggers something in you, that’s your problem. That’s something that you need to look at. That’s either something you’re seeing reflected in them that you haven’t made peace within yourself or you’re battling in yourself or it’s a fear you might have for yourself. Or, it could also be on the flip side, you’re seeing something and you don’t believe that you can have it, right?” (14:28 – 14:52 | Chrystal)
- “We’re in this time where everything is so divided and people are ‘this’ or ‘that.’ And if you’re not ‘this’ or ‘that,’ it’s really kind of frustrating because you’re like, I don’t even fit in with any of you people and you guys are fighting each other. And you’ll probably just fight me too, because we don’t fit here.” (15:30-15:50 | Chrystal)
- “I’ve tried to teach myself to just be supportive. If you’re going to say something out loud, just know that if it comes back to you, you better fucking own it.” (25:40 -25:50 | Deb)
- “Fundamentally at our core, people are capable of change and we’re supposed to change for the better ideally. So, just because someone has been unkind before doesn’t mean they deserve it. You know, no one deserves to be shit on really.” (28:36 – 28:55 | Chrystal)
- “Your words have an impact. Wouldn’t you rather, to a stranger, make them feel good about themselves or help them to feel good?” (32:36 – 32:44 | Deb)
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