Has a friend or family member ever triggered an emotional response from you? Did you cut that person out of your life or did you give them the benefit of the doubt?
Often, when we encounter people who disagree with us or have something we want, a feeling of discomfort is activated. Rather than self-reflecting, we are quick to assume that this person meant to cause us harm. Although it’s important to set up boundaries with our loved ones, it’s equally important to take a step back and dig deeper. Are these people abusive, or is unresolved insecurity wounding our egos? Of course, there are cases where it is necessary to remove toxic relationships, but if someone simply thinks differently than you do, it can be worthwhile to give them a chance.
Tune into this week’s solo sesh for a conversation with host Chrystal Rose about finding compassion for those who are different from you. Learn how to distinguish toxicity from triggers, understand people’s experiences, and look within yourself to grow.
- “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, it sets the tone for everything else. And if we’re eating self love for breakfast, well shit, you guys, our day is gonna be awesome. Or at least a lot better than a day where we don’t start it out with self love.” (5:27-5:45)
- “Whatever is underneath the trigger is still there. Just because you remove something from your life doesn’t mean you’ve truly dealt with it.” (9:30-9:45)
- “What about trying to understand where a person is coming from before knee-jerking to just cutting them off because we decided that their intentions were bad? We’re so quick to jump to negative feelings and defend our ego due to our own insecurities more often than not.” (15:40-15:59)
- “Have some compassion. My goodness, I see people screaming at each other to have compassion, while they’re not having compassion for the person they’re yelling at to have compassion. And having compassion is about other people’s experiences, right? Everything I have been through in my life, from start to here. All of my own experiences have created my beliefs.” (18:22-18:49)
- “Let’s look deeper. How can we grow? How can we become better versions of ourselves? And sometimes that’s digging into the ugly stuff. Sometimes that’s having the kind of conversation with ourselves and with others that we don’t want to have. This is shadow work.” (29:28-29:46)
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