“Taking time for self-care is extremely important, as is understanding what that looks like for you,” says Martika Shanel, Author, and Speaker. After her divorce, Martika took a step back and reassessed her part in her relationship’s end. After experiencing exponential self-growth, Martika wrote her book What to Do with These Red Flags, which demonstrates the value of self-love when cultivating healthy relationships.

Martika recognizes that your partner grows and changes over time, just like you. As a result, it is crucial to communicate honestly with your partner about your needs in addition to theirs. Although not all relationships are built to last, Martika reminds the audience that break-ups are a great time to evaluate your wants, focus on self-care, and learn new things about yourself. 

Tune into this week’s episode of Self-Love for Breakfast for a caring conversation on love and relationships. Learn more about Martika’s inspiration for her book, how relationships can grow and change, and the importance of self-discovery regardless of your relationship status.

Quotes 

• “Your partner is going through a transition in life just as you are, so you have to work to have open communication to get that intimacy.” (13:53 – 14:02 | Martika)
• “People are supposed to grow. You’re supposed to change and then support each other through that growth and change.” (14:54 – 15:00 | Chrystal)
• “Everyone has different love languages. And if you love someone, you have to choose to love them the way that they want to be loved.” (16:56 – 17:04 | Martika)
• “Even if it’s painful, have a conversation. If you’re not feeling the relationship anymore, or if you feel as though you are destined to be in another relationship, or you want to see if another relationship better suits you, then you have to communicate that.” (23:44 – 24:00 | Martika)
• “Go find yourself. Discover yourself. There’s nothing wrong with getting into a relationship and getting it wrong sooner. We’ve all been there. But why go through the hassle and the heartache if you just take the time to sit with yourself and experience yourself?”  (27:04 – 27:24 | Martika)

Connect with Martika Shanel:

Website | http://www.martikashanel.com/ 

Twitter | https://twitter.com/MartikaShanel 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/martikashanel/ 

Youtube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4VpPJHNXNJ9hrPSteUhc7g/featured?view_as=subscriber Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/authormartikashanel/ 

Connect with Chrystal:

http://chrystalrose.com/

https://www.selflovebreakfastclub.com/

https://www.instagram.com/xtalrose/

https://www.instagram.com/selflovebreakfastclub/

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